Some people love to perform. The thrill of being on stage, the excitement of sharing with others, the anxiety of it not going well,the possibility that it will be brilliant, the comfort of a well-known program. Other people, not so much.
Some people love to perform. The thrill of being on stage, the excitement of sharing with others, the anxiety of it not going well,the possibility that it will be brilliant, the comfort of a well-known program. Other people, not so much.
People who have stage fright often think that the people they see on stage are different. That the people on stage don’t have any anxiety about being up there, in the spotlight, the object of the attention of all the people in the audience. Boy are they wrong!
The only difference is that the people on the stage have mastered looking calm. I don’t know a single performer who doesn’t have some level of anxiety about performing. Granted the level of anxiety and come of the symptoms are different, but everyone feels it.
The other difference is that performers have, one way or another, overcome the anxiety. That is because the reward is too great to miss. However, if you haven’t overcome the terror, you don’t know what you’re missing [it is also possible that it isn’t a reward to you!]. If you have set yourself the challenge to overcome your stage fright, there are a few steps you can take:
And don’t go too fast – give yourself time to adapt…and enjoy the process!
Stage fright is just another thing you can overcome with practice. Maybe that should be a goal for this year? Always play to enjoy – even if there is a little bit of fear mixed in.
No matter how many times you might step in front of an audience, it is always a little stressful. There is a lot on the line, whether you are playing to put someone to sleep or getting up on a concert hall stage – especially if it’s just you and your harp.
We can take a page from the book of risk takers – the tightrope walkers, skiing racers, mountaineers, and others. What do professional risk takers do to minimize the risks they take? Well there are many things, but here are three to start with – you can use them to improve your comfort when you step on stage:
1. Preparation – successful risk takers are prepared. They do not proceed unless they are prepared. They spend a great deal of time and attention to assuring that everything they need they have. You must also be prepared –know what “being prepared” means to you (determine what your comfort will require you to do), do not be bullied into performing before you are ready, perhaps schedule in “growing” time to perform for small, unthreatening groups (you might go from performing for your cat, to then performing for your sister, before venturing out to your church or other larger audience).
2. Routine – develop, practice and solidify a routine. The experienced risk taker understands that an established routine allows not only assurance that all is well beforehand but it also frees up time for your brain to do the heavy work you are going to ask of it while you are performing. You need a routine – pack up and set up your harp in a particular order, use a checklist if you need one, practice your set list, in that order, etc. Routine also allows you to reduce your worry (because it can improve your preparation) which allows you to focus on the music rather than on your fear.
3. Connectivity with people – Successful risk takers work collaboratively with other people. This connectivity provides not only support but also feedback. Build your connectivity with other harpers – you’re not in this alone. Find a teacher, mentor, friend who will provide you with honest, kind, usable feedback to improve your performance. Build what you learn from their feedback into your preparation and routine. And to build your connection – be willing to share what you know with other harp players.
I am so fortunate – lucky really – to have participated in the 2013 Harpa Tour. It was a wonderful opportunity to travel and work with some amazing musicians. I’m back now and still reveling in the glow of memories.
Here are just a couple of photos (which the other performers shared on facebook) that really sum up the fantastic vibe we had going – a great group, a lovely place, and lots and lots and lots of tunes!
We had a successful kickstarter campaign and warm appreciative audiences at every venue. What more could you ask!
Look for the CD later this summer! There will also be a DVD that will be a snapshot of the fun we had. While Beth says never again – I think you might be surprised…
If you’re looking to have your own Harp Adventure this year – there isn’t much time remaining to get in on the Harp the Highlands and Islands tour! Go to http://www.jeniuscreations.com/harp-tours-of-scotland/tour-2013/ for details and information.
Wedding season that is. The good news is that people are still getting married! If we’re fortunate to be booked we know that we will add immeasurably to the event. I heard a great characterization for waffling brides (or checkbook holders), “People won’t remember what you served for dinner but everyone will remember that you had a gorgeous harp!” (if I could remember who said this brilliant pearl I would definitely credit that person here!).
Some of the best parts of playing a wedding include:
And if you’re not playing weddings – why not? “I don’t want to” is a perfectly good answer. “I am afraid to” isn’t as legitimate – and may point out things you should work on (we’re talking about music, not temperament!).
What do you like best about playing for weddings? What do you play? Do you have any standards or chestnuts? If you had to play a wedding tomorrow, do you have enough music at your fingertips? I hope you’ll what you like and what works with me!
Sandy Grason said, “Your inner wisdom whispers, your inner critic SHOUTS” (my emphasis). It has been my experience that she is correct.
Especially when it comes to our music. We know a large number of people who play better than we do. And if we are adults who came to the harp in adulthood, many of them are still children!
You might have seen in the news lately that the new rage is to work standing up. Stand up desks are popping up in all sorts of places – even on treadmills. Working standing up has many benefits including:
You might think it is impossible to bring this trend to the harp, but you would be wrong. There are a number of good reasons to play standing up –
But when you are meant to stand out, standing is a good way to start. It is essential that you find a platform that is the right height (standing is not license to slouch). The platform must be stable and you must be able to keep the harp on the platform safely while playing (and preferably while not playing). The harp should not be wobbly, nor should you have to grip the harp while playing to keep it stable and upright. Finally – you must practice with the harp in the standing configuration. Many of your muscle memory cues will be slightly different. Your sight picture will also be different so rehearsing standing will help you recalibrate.
So, give standing a try, see if it works for you – take a stand!
Most people panic because everyone knows the holiday tunes and will know if you make a mistake. There are a couple of ways around this –
3. Keep up the rest of your repertoire. Rather than interspersing “regular” music into your holiday tunes, think of sprinkling your holidays music into your regular repertoire. Even the happiest elf (and those strong employees at the shops!) can take only so much Christmas music. This really reduces the burden on your learning.
Performing can be such a terrifying word. We’re never ready, the time’s not right, the venue is too small to bother, the venue is too large to be comfortable, we always have excuses.
But when you do step up, when you give yourself permission to take the chance, when you take the opportunity, inevitably you get reminded of one of the most attractive things about performing with your instrument – people do listen – and you do touch them!
Michael Tilson Thomas said, “The most important thing about music is what happens when it stops, what remains with the listener, what they take away. A melody, rhythm, some understanding of another person or another culture. The way those experiences add up, in the soul of a person over the years….You want to shake people even when they’re not listening to the music.” And he’s right!
So, when you have the opportunity to share, and especially if you are offered the opportunity to play with someone else – do it! Don’t let your fear get in your way.
And by the way, it’s not about you. Don’t focus on how you’re not good enough, or you haven’t practiced enough, or you’re not ready. It’s about them – focus on the person that you will touch, that person that you don’t even know. the person who, after hearing you will be brave enough to come up to you later and tell you how much they enjoyed it…and the person who loved it but didn’t work up the courage to come tell you so.
Revel in knowing that that little piece of the music has gotten to in to the soul of the person – and that you’ve shaken that person even when they are not listen to your music. And be glad that you haven’t missed a fantastic opportunity.