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Process – Product – So what?

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WOW!  Last week you had some great comments and questions!  A couple of you privately asked what the point was.  If you were wondering what the point of all that was – or if there even was a point, you’re about to find out!

I don’t know about you, but I try really hard to not make resolutions at the New Year.  If I do make a resolution, it’s usually at an equinox or solstice. Why then?  Why not?  There’s nothing about 1 January that makes it more special than any other day, although it does feel momentous and there’s great fanfare to its arrival, but any day is a good a starting point.

However, the New Year is the beginning of a year and one could argue that at the beginning is an excellent place to start something.  It provides an opportunity to focus on the action needed and to set goals.

So PROCESS? PRODUCT? So what?

Process or Product goalsWell, goals work best if they are actually aligned with what you want.  Goals work worst when they are really good….for someone else!  If you’re primarily a process person, you will be better served to have goals that align with you and are more process driven.  If, on the other hand, you’re a product person, then setting process goals will likely just result in failure and self-recrimination.

And who wants that?

Since you’ve had the opportunity to think about how Process or Product you are, now you can craft goals for yourself that build on your strengths.  By starting with your strengths, you’re much more likely to be successful.

If you’re more Process, you might define goals for the coming year that focus on the journey.  These might be longer term, stretching throughout the year (or even across years).  Because you’re process oriented, you will do fine with these goals. And you have the flexibility to have any “products” happen when they happen rather than adhering to a schedule.   And if there are no products, so what?

If you found you are more Product focused, your goals might look really different.  Products are likely to be shorter term, and each of them might be very finite.  You can schedule them and then adhere to the schedule as part of the goal.  And if you don’t reflect on how you got there, so what?

The lovely thing is that you can use either Process or Product for any goal!  If the goal is to play all of the Carolan compositions (since those seem to be all the rage just now with multiple approaches to collecting and arranging them) it’s more how you state the goal and then work it, rather than the goal itself.  For a process person, stating the goal that look like this: “I will play through all the Carolans by the end of the year”.  For the product person that might be too nebulous, so it might be stated, “I will play one Carolan tune each day for the next 261 days.”  Same goal, different approaches.  The process person would probably chafe under the product approach and the product person might get nowhere with the process statement – but stated in their own best way, they can each have a great year and achieve that goal!

By focusing on your strengths, you can also develop goals that are less “should” and more “will“.   For instance, your goal could be, “I should organize all my sheet music” (can you hear the sneer of that “should”?  That sneer is what makes me think, “I should but I won’t”).  But what if we shifted it around and removed the “should”? Then it could be stated, “Alphabetize and arrange my music library” (more product) or “Read through and bring some order to my music” (more process).

Of course, this is also the opportunity to set a goal to practice things that don’t come as naturally to you or are uncomfortable for you.  This is an opportunity to strengthen your weaker Process or Product side.  Do you see how that subtle wording shift above makes the goals more approachable?  Also notice that they’re the same goal?  Of course in this example, many of us might smush it all together and enjoy a ramble through all the music we want to get to but might not (on the line between Process and Product), but we’ll enjoy the time we spend.

No matter what your goals might be this year, putting them in the context of your strengths will certainly make them more appealing.  And more accomplishable.  And more enjoyable.  Avoiding “shoulds” will also give you the opportunity to shake off the shackles of expectations that don’t fit you.

What are your goals this year?  I’d love to hear them – share in the comments!

PS, you may have seen that sometimes I post a comment in which I reference an email rather than a previous comment.  I know that not all of you are interested in sharing every thought you ever had with everyone on the planet.  You are always welcome to send me an email sharing your thoughts.  Usually you have excellent thoughts that I might edit and share your thinking with the group but know that if you send me an email comment and I post it in the comments, I will strip it of all attribution to protect your privacy.  I really do like hearing from you so please don’t hide your light!

Welcome to the Process and Product of 2021! 

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It’s that time of the year when we reflect on the past year and think about what might come in the next twelve months.

Of course, the last year wasn’t really all that nice and we might be inclined to avoid thinking about it at all.  But that would be a mistake.

You probably learned a great deal in the last year.  Some of it good, some of it bad, almost all of it about you.  So think about what has happened so you can make a better start to the coming year.

You might think that I’m going to tell you to make your resolutions or goals for 2021.  But I’m not.  In fact, I think that would not be a good idea.  Let’s wait on those goals for a sec and instead, let’s talk about something you’ve been telling me.

Process or ProductOne of the things you told me – a lot – was that in the past year, you weren’t motivated.  That you weren’t practicing.  And that this not practicing lead you to feel badly…because you knew you should be maximizing your time by practicing more.

And if you’re on social media, this might have made you feel even worse as people made videos and wrote music and built complicated multi-window concerts that included participants all over the world and shaped facebook empires and instagram realms, leaving you to feel like you needed to be just as creatively productive …even if you were still working full time (or were mildly depressed by the situation and your infatuation with doomscrolling!).

And possibly even worse, you told me that this made you doubt if you should keep playing.  Doubt if you’d ever get back to your harp.  Bemoaning your lack of progress…and motivation. Wondering if you ever really were a harp player.

Some of you said something to the effect of – if there’s no one to play for there’s no reason to play and if there’s no reason to play there’s no reason to practice and if I don’t practice then I can’t play…so maybe I should just give it up!

Poppycock!

What you might see as a lack of motivation is likely just a need to determine your style.  Once you know what that style is, then you can focus on what works for you. 

Some of us are Process people.  We are in it for the journey.  We love to explore the nooks and crannies of the path.  We just love the route – and if we never get anywhere, that’s ok too – we’ll amble along taking in more information, learning as we go, enjoying the ride.  We like a unending, undefined pursuit.

Some of us are Product people.  We don’t really have a lot of thought for the journey – we are focused on the destination.  We love to arrive! We honestly don’t give a fig for how we get there; we just want to get there.  And then (possibly even before we get there) we’ll look for our next destination and work on getting there ad nauseum. 

The process focus is popularly held as a more enlightened approach.  And smugly superior process people like to point out that product people are missing the point, aren’t mindful enough, etc.  Product people don’t even look up of course, because they are busy getting where they’re going and don’t have time to listen to process people prattle on about the path.

If you’ve been feeling unmotivated because there’s nowhere to play, you’re probably a Product person.

But as you might have already guessed, there is no one right way.  There are even some hybrid people who both enjoy the journey and rejoice in arriving at the destination.  As we continue to move through the year with ongoing uncertainty, the process people might appear to have an advantage.  But the real advantage will be to those who know what their approach is and going from there. 

It is important is to know what you are and to work with that knowledge to achieve two aims:

  1. To encourage yourself to continue
  2. To stretch yourself to be more like you aren’t (and observe how that helps you grow as a musician)

You likely already know which of these you are. If, over the last eight months you were a font of great ideas and noodled around with them and maybe put at least a few of them into play – you are likely a process person.  If, on the other hand, your ongoing self-talk included something along the lines of “there’s no one to play for, there’s nothing to do, why would I bother to play” you’re probably a product person. 

A Product focus begins with the end in mind – you practice because you have a gig coming up.  Or a harp circle.  Or a lesson.  It might not be in you to practice just for the joy of it.  And you might feel silly when you just sit to play – rather than practice – when no one is listening.  You typically do practice (only because when it’s time to perform, there’s not many tunes you can just pull out of your ear without practice).  For you practice is a means to an end, not a journey.

A Process focus is much more open ended.  You dally.  You practice things just to know them rather than to prepare to perform.  You may look forward to the feel of the harp against you and the sound of the strings as you play. You might noodle for hours just to noodle.  And if you never perform that stuff, so what – look at what you learned.

It is important to note –

– most people have a some of both Process and Product,

– one is not better than the other, they’re just different ways to look at the world

So, as you begin to feel your way into the new year, but before you get down to defining what you think the year might look like in terms of your harp life goals or resolutions – I have some homework for you!

  • Assess yourself and determine if you are more Process or more Product.  Be honest!
  • Once you’ve determined which you are, mark where you are on the continuumProcess Product Continuum
  • Write down three things that might come from being more what you aren’t (e.g. if you’re mostly process, what are three things that you might benefit from being more product focused)
  • Write down some ways you anticipate this will make you uncomfortable
  • Note how this exercise (and actually implementing the three things you identify) might improve your practicing and playing.

Are you more Process or more Product?  Let me know what you’re like and what you think your three things might be in the comments below!

 

Harpy New Year

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Why, no, that joke never gets old.  I’m happy to say “harpy birthday” too!

Well, 2020 is in the rear-view and we can confidently move onto a new, hopefully different and better, year in 2021.  Here’s to hoping we have an excellent year full of laughter, life, and music!

I hope you will take a little time to review the year past and find the good things that happened – even if they are small or very far apart.  Be realistic, not overly critical, with your attention trained on your positive steps.  May I suggest that you look back and reflect positively on all that has occurred.  

So, I say to you:

Harpy New Year!

Merry Christmas

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Happy Holidays to you and yours!   I hope you have a wonderful Christmas and that you get to enjoy sharing music with those around you (or in Zoom distance!).  Those who receive your gift of music will be delighted…and there’s no need for a return policy!

This has been a “different” year for all of us – good and bad.  I don’t know about you, but I’ve gotten to learn a lot.  As part of that – please join me and Donna Bennett performing as Gallus – our Solstice mini-concert is here!  This was our opportunity to share music with you – Harpy Christmas!

Merry Christmas

Merry Christmas

Change the things you can and Accept the things you cannot

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I really enjoy hearing from you.  Throughout the year you have reached out and shared your thoughts, your successes, your challenges, and I am so incredibly grateful that you do.

And you’ve had some doozies this year!

Broken bones and broken harps.  Sadness and loneliness as we spent the year Together Apart.  Concern that this will never end.  Tunes that refused to go into your head.  Wayward left hands that just would not cooperate.  Concern about not being able to share music with others.  Fatigue with playing.  Frustration at not making the progress you expected (or demanded of yourself).  Nervousness as gigs dried up and audiences didn’t materialize.  Fear that an injury might mean you’ll never play again.  Anxiety that your absent motivation is going to close a chapter in your life.

Yikes.

Change what you can

Change what you can, Accept what you can’t

And yet, through it all, our harps have stood at the ready (well, with the exception of the broken harp…).  Your harp can be a source of succor in an otherwise blech year – if you allow it to be.  And if you allow it to serve that role where and when you need it.  It’s a time to change the things you can and accept the things you cannot.

You cannot change your healing and recovery rate.  You cannot modify how long we are shut down, separated, enduring viruses.  These are things that you must accept.

But if you’re not very motivated to spend time at your harp, you might just need a change.  Who knows why you’re not playing or practicing?  Well, it’s likely that you do!

Sometimes you need to knuckle down and just do it.  This often feels like a nagging need that you feel rubbing you the wrong way.  Perhaps you can just push along with your harp to get past this.  Identify why you’re feeling that you don’t want to play and tease it out.  If you’re stressed and overwhelmed, or just a little discouraged, you can reset your frame.  Make a coffee date with your harp.  Rather than thinking about practicing, just promise yourself that you’ll only sit for 3 minutes and you’ll spend that time noodling.  If you need to make this completely stress free, just play pentatonic notes (set your harp to Cmaj and play only the white strings).  This is pretty easy because anything you play will sound like music.  Whatever you do, don’t force it – if getting to 3 minutes is hard, get up and walk away.  If it is relatively easy (by which I mean – if you are surprised 3 minutes went by so fast) then keep playing.  This is really just an opportunity to reconnect with your harp (and yourself).  Don’t practice, don’t work, just relax into your harp, and enjoy.   And maybe you’ll look forward to another coffee date with your harp.  Or maybe lunch?  Just go with it and see what happens. 

Or maybe your motivation is low because you haven’t really set any new goals and you are floundering.  This might be the easiest to fix!  Schedule yourself for lessons or coaching with someone who will help you define or refine your goals and help you set a path there.  Need a teacher or coach?    

More difficult are the times when you have to acknowledge that you need a break.  That you are deliberately avoiding your harp.  That you are in difficulties with your relationship.  There are loads of reasons you might need a break.  You could have set rigid expectations that you have not met.  You might be at a place in your life when you do not have the time to dedicate to this craft.  You may have become bored with the instrument, the music, the process, the activity.  You may have come to realize that you like saying you play the harp, but the reality of playing isn’t as appealing.  It can be hard to walk away – after all you’ve invested a lot of time and money.  The harp world is a delightful and comfortable place and you probably have made loads of friends as well.  So, departing could be hard, but there is no shame in finding that you just don’t want to be there anymore.

I really hope you’re not finding that you are having difficulty getting to your harp!  But, if you are, no matter which of these you might fit, the important thing is that you identify what the challenge is.   Then you can begin to move forward.  And it’s not too soon – the coming New Year is a good opportunity to reflect, define what you must accept and change what you can.

Are you a little stuck?  How is that manifesting in your harp life?  Let me know in the comments.  Need help?  Let me know – coaching can help you get where you’re going (or at least back on the path).

Keep Moving

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In what has been an interesting year (yes, that’s the most charitable word I can think of to describe 2020), winter has begun with a roar (literally – high winds and damaging gusts in my area, 6 inches of snow for some of you).  It’s enough to challenge one’s sanity!

But we are stronger than that and we will push through all this.  Thankfully, we have our harps to help us get through just about anything!  But we do need to keep moving to help us continue to grow – and I think that many of you have been doing that throughout the year.  We keep moving on our repertoire.  We keep moving to find new ways to gather and be a community.  We keep moving to help each other out as we have seen opportunities to share first vanish and then move to new virtual ways of connecting. 

But are we moving enough?  I know you keep moving while playing – but are you actually moving?  There are a few ways of moving that are fairly essential to your continued playing and your overall wellbeing.

Go for a walk – outside.  I did mention I meant to literally move!  There are a number of reasons to go for a walk.  Getting some sunlight is good (and necessary) for your health.  Getting some fresh air might just save your life (Dr. Fauci tells us now).  And a little bit of light aerobic exercise helps keep you healthy.  If you prefer, don’t see talking a walk as a fitness challenge but rather an opportunity to spend a little quiet time to clear your mind and reconnect with yourself.  And don’t let the winter deter you – this doesn’t have to be a trek, just a short stroll will have the desired effect.

Take a little exercise.  Ok, now I’m talking about a little more strenuous than the walk!  No matter your age, a little bit of exercise helps keep you supple.  You don’t have to be a gym rat or the next Arnold Schwarzenegger either – just find an appropriate workout plan online.  There are loads that can be perfect for you – search by your age, or current level of fitness, or interest (for instance – don’t have any equipment, find a workout that doesn’t require any like basic calisthenics…those are still around and are still good for you).  The point is that having a little more movement in your day will help you keep moving.  You will be less stiff and sore, and this can be a perpetual part of your day – the longer you exercise a little each day, the better you will feel every day. And feeling better sure makes playing easier!

Don’t plant on the bench.  I find this particularly difficult!  When you’re playing and having a great time (as we do!), or even practicing and working intently on getting some new piece worked up, it’s easy to be so focused that you inadvertently spend too much time sitting on the bench.  You might recall that typically the appropriate seat for playing is not really designed for long term sitting.  Most are flat and not particularly cushioned.  So be sure to schedule stretch breaks and plan to get up from the bench to move a little throughout your practice.  You don’t have to take a long break to keep moving!  Take a short walk, climb the stairs, stretch, do something to move.  Then you can go back to your practicing a bit refreshed.  If you find you don’t notice the passage of time, use a kitchen timer to act as an alarm clock.

Feel the rhythm of the beat. Ever since my first harp workshop where I learned about eurythmics, I have been a fan!  If you’re not familiar with this (or if this word only makes you think of a most excellent Scottish band from the 1980s) eurythmics is the practice of using body movement to reflect music.  It can be expressive (as in dance) but here I mean using your body to represent the music you’re playing.  If you’ve ever clapped a rhythm, you’ve done eurythmics!  If you’re one of my students, you have likely lived through clapping and walking and a bunch of other body movements to really feel the rhythm and the beat.  I love this approach not only because it gets you moving but it also allows you to learn your music in other modes that you normally sit on (in this case actually!).

Reach out and touch someone.  Ok, this might be figurative in the time of COVID, but there’s no reason not to reach out to others.  When we can, we can literally reach out to play with our friends, but even now, be sure to reach out to others to play, share, teach, and learn. 

How do you keep moving?  I’m sure you have other ideas to share – let me know if the comments!

Go confidently – and be nice

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So, there’s still a dread disease across the land, there is still very little work for musicians, and we’re all getting tired of sitting in front of our computers creating/consuming/enduring content.

Sigh.  What’s a harper to do?

I saw something online this morning (of course, because where else am I gonna go?) that really stuck with me.

Self confidenceYou see, I spent pretty much ALL day yesterday working on something at the intersection of my harp and my computer.  It was a struggle to figure out where to start.  But I shouldered all my perfectionistic professionalism and got on with it.  And after hours slogging through (and I mean h-o-u-r-s), I learned that I had gotten absolutely nothing usable!  Then I spent even more hours trying to save what I had, only to recognize that it would be faster (and probably more satisfying and less frustrating) to start over again than to continue to try to salvage it.  It was disheartening (and worrisome – I have a deadline!).  I felt like I wasn’t going to be able to do this.

But the words I saw this morning were spot on.  They spoke of continuing on, and staying confident, even when you’re not sure where you’re going.

I hope you feel confidence when you’re playing – especially when you’re struggling with a particular piece or technique.  It’s very difficult to keep confidence front of mind when you have had a bad rehearsal or when you make a video of your playing (like I frequently suggest) and see something you didn’t think you would (I’m pointing at you unclosed fingers, dropping elbows, craned necks, and bent wrists!).  It would be so easy to become disheartened and to set it aside.  But like so many setbacks, there are lessons to be learned – about the music, about your playing, and about yourself!

Don’t let your self-confidence take a hit when you have setbacks or challenges.  It is easy to go down the path of loss of confidence – especially with our music.  And while you’re being confident, that you’re nice to you as well.  But it’s important to remember a few important details:

  • Typically our lack of self-confidence has nothing to do with reality. Your perception of your performance is usually far different from your real ability.  If you have received kudos in for your playing, those people are not lying!  So stop lying to yourself.
  • Remember to praise yourself – and mean it.
  • You will have challenges.  As you work through them, be nice to you!  The mental health pros say “practice kindness and compassion” – do that with yourself!
  • Finally, realize that you can say no to yourself.  You wouldn’t accept unreasonable requests from others, don’t make unreasonable requests of yourself!  Of course strive to learn and grow, but don’t ask yourself to do things you don’t want to do are just aren’t ready for!

So, today I’m redoing all the work I did yesterday.  Am I feeling less confident?  Nope, not anymore (of course I wallowed for a little bit – I AM human!).  Today I’m going to use everything I learned yesterday and get it done!  Do I know where all this will lead?  Nope, I have no clue.  while I do all that, I will remember that I am doing the best I can and I will succeed, although it might take me a little longer than I thought.

If you hit a rough patch, I hope you’ll continue on, stay confident, and persevere.  You may not know where you’re going…until you get there.  Anyone else in this spot?  What are you doing?  Let me know in the comments!

Happy Thanksgiving!

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Thanksgiving isn’t really a harp holiday – or even a music holiday.

Happy Thankgsiving!It is a great time to think about our blessings as harp players – we are so fortunate!  We play a forgiving instrument that gives us pleasure.  Harp also allows us to share with others.  And let’s be frank – we play an instrument that doesn’t ever sound like a constipated goose fighting with a cat in heat!  That’s an awful lot for which to be thankful!

But wait, there’s more!  We are part of an incredible community of like-minded musicians.  We know loads of tunes!  And we have opportunities to play together, even when we’re apart.  And it’s relatively easy to play – no matter how many slices of pie you have!

So I hope you have a lovely Thanksgiving and can take a moment to be glad of all the gifts our harps bring us.  One thing for which I am thankful?  You sharing your valuable time with me here each week! 

What are you thankful for?  Share in the comments –

 

When SHOULDN’T you practice?

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You’re not going to believe that I’m about to tell you this!  You might want to be sitting before you read on.

There are times when you SHOULDN’T practice!

I did say that you that you wouldn’t believe I was going to say that.  But it is true.

When shouldn't you practiceOf course, you know that you need to practice.  You know that if you want to move yourself toward playing more, better, faster, stronger – you need to practice.  The quality time you spend on the bench is directly related to your progress and development.  And even in those times when you not “feeling” it, you still know you need to do it.

But there are a few very specific times when you should not practice.  Times when practicing has the potential to make the situation worse, or to derail all your hard work.  What are these very specific reasons to not practice?  Here are six:

  1. You are in pain – this should be a no brainer, and yet, I feel compelled to include it anyway.  If you feel pain when you are playing, no matter where you feel it, no matter what type of pain it is, stop.  Visit your physician, and have the pain addressed. I know, duh…but it had to be said.
  2. You are injured – this is like the above, but slightly different.  If you are injured, you’ll likely have had pain (ref 1 above). But at some point in your recovery, you might have little to no pain.  And because you are beginning to feel better you might try to get back to practicing, even though you know you’re meant to rest a little longer. But failing to give yourself that resting time might result in further injury.  Again, duh.  Don’t do it!
  3. You are exhausted – I don’t mean you’re tired, I mean you’re really really really tired.  You know the kind.  Not the, “oh I wish I had gone to bed a little earlier” kind of tired.  More like the “I haven’t slept for days because I’m over-stressed and I’m barely keeping it together” kind of exhausted.  You probably already know that being this fatigued will result in reduced cognitive performance.  You probably also know that it will be frustrating and annoying.  Neither of these emotions will help you deal well with the rigors of practicing.  Being so fatigued also means that you probably won’t really learn anything from your practice time.  So you’d be better off using the time getting some rest and returning to practicing later.
  4. You are really busy – here I don’t mean your normal everyday busy, but more like when you’re crushed with way too much to do and no time to do it (and likely not getting enough sleep – ref 3 above).  With that kind of mental load, you won’t be able to focus on the work you need to do in your practice.  And you might also spend your valuable cognitive practice energy fussing about not doing the things you should be doing rather than thinking about your practice – not very productive.  It would be better to forego practicing so you can concentrate on what you are busy doing and come back when you can be deliberate with your playing.
  5. You are experiencing exceptional stress – again, not everyday stress.  By this I mean you’re experiencing significant life changes or events.  You might, because you’re diligent, feel that you must, regardless of other things going on in your life, insert a practice.  But be open to not practicing, especially at the height of the stress.  If I wasn’t writing about when you should consider not practicing, this is where I would also suggest that you could, in this instance, play but not practice.  Your harp could provide succor in tough times, but just play, be with your harp and your music, don’t practice.
  6. You are stuck – we all go through times that we get stuck – when we just aren’t concentrating on the music we want to play.  Simply stepping away may give you the clarity to get unstuck.  Take a walk, meditate, or do something that you know will help clear your head.

All of us have had experienced these things at some level.  And when we do, a bit of a break can help.  The real trick is to give ourselves permission to give our practice a miss briefly to gain clarity.  The other trick is to ensure that we get back into practice quickly after a tiny break so we avoid drifting into not practicing at all.  Use your practice journal to help you get through the break and get back on track with your practicing when you come back. 

Have you taken a brief break in your practice for these (or other) reasons?  Let me know in the comments!

Veterans Day 2020

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Veterans Day – the holiday with no big celebration, special foods, or symbols.  The US Military is the biggest employer of musicians in the world!  This Veterans Day – thank a Vet!

Veterans Day 2020

Happy Veterans Day to our sailors, soldiers, and airmen past and present. We owe you our thanks, but more than that, we owe you our freedom